Isn’t it amazing that little children could come out of a concentration camp more concerned about feeding their companions than feeding themselves?
You can’t replace the role of peers, but you can help your child avoid long-term damage that can come from toxic situations.
This four-minute clip from the Pixar movie Inside Out says it better than I ever could:
To help your child avoid depression, help them develop strong relationships, become deeply engaged in activities, and discover purpose and meaning.
The classic example of natural discipline at work is when a child learns to not touch a hot stove by … touching a hot stove. Lesson learned!
The next time you’re about to offer praise to your child, consider a question or observation as great way to not only share your approval but also promote your child’s awareness of their own accomplishment and their interest in building on it.
Just as your four-year-old will not remember that wonderful visit you had at Grandma’s house, she also will not remember the time you were so frustrated, stressed, or sleep deprived that you screamed at her.
What we really want is for our children to make good decisions and act responsibly on their own. Right now, though, they’re still in the process of developing the skills they need to be able to make good choices. They need our help.
The idea is simple: Before correcting your child, take time to connect with him or her.
You can help your child learn to manage their emotions by arranging experiences that stretch their abilities just the right amount.